There are many other strategies that teacher use that are useful. What needs to be done is to analyze them from a student-centered perspective. Are the strategies being used in a respectful manner?TIME-OUTS
Time-outs in the hallway send negative messages to students. It sends the message "I'm not good enough to be in that class". Time-outs play an important role in defusing power struggles, etc. Both the teacher and student often need time-outs. The issue is how to do it in a respectful manner? Can there be a time-out space in the room? In a designated place where there is supervision/counseling?CONFRONTING STUDENTS IN FRONT OF PEERS
There seems to be a time to confront a student in front of peers but it is not very often. When a student is disrespectful, in front of his peers, it sometimes works to discuss the disrespectful behavior in front of the class. Use with extreme caution.COUNSELING
One thing that works is if a student is disrespectful, a time-out is given where the student, who is angry, is sent to a space in the room that is not occupied. When both teacher and student are ready, a quiet conversation occurs about the disrespectful behavior. The student is then rejoins the group. The other students usually don't hear the teacher's conversation because it is quiet and calm. The student's conversation depends upon the volume of the student.
This advise is contrary to what most people suggest, which is to talk privately with the student. Is the student's dignity respected using this strategy? I think so because what is being addressed is disrespectful behavior that was done in front of a class. The class knows what happened and everyone becomes aware of how the issue is handled. The age of the student is important. Teenagers have a strong peer group which may feed into the issue.
Counseling has to be a central component to any respect policy.CONSISTENCY
There are three rules to consistency:PUTTING STUDENTS INTO SPECIFIC SITUATIONS
1. Be consistent
2. Be consistent
3. Be consistent
Being consistent does not mean responding the same way to the same stimulus. Often being consistent means responding in different ways to the same stimulus. Being consistent means being consistent to the concept of respect. Any disrespectful behavior cannot be ignored. You may decide to do very little when some disrespectful act is committed, but you must do something. Ignoring it is not consistent.
Simulation games, role-playing, and putting students into specific situations are excellent ways to teach respectful behavior. If the objective is to teach students to respect elders, then have them do projects that requires them to intact with elders. If the objective is to have students be respectful to animals, then have them do projects that involve caring for animals.POSITIVE PEER RELATIONSHIPS
There are many Peer-Tutoring types of programs available that are useful which involve students learning how to work positively with other students. These types of programs are needed in our schools.EXTRA-CURRICULAR ACTIVITIES
If a teacher asked, "What one thing can I do to gain the respect of my class?" my answer would be, "Do extra-curricular activities with your class". Extra-curricular activities send all kinds of positive messages to students. They realize you care enough to do extra things with them, they see you as a person which is different than a teacher, and you have opportunities to teach respect in a much gentler environment.LEADERSHIP
Students need to be put into situations where real leadership is taught. Students need to learn about the different leadership styles.GRAY AREAS
When students get into trouble, they need to analyse their actions and be taught what "gray areas" are all about. If a decision is made to allow a student to get-out-of-trouble because it's a gray area, the student needs to know this.GROUP CONFERENCING
Group conferencing, with the appropriate people is critical. Everyone needs to approach a problem in a systematic way. Individuals within the group may have different styles, but everyone needs to be aware of what everyone else is doing to help the student.CONCEPTUALIZATION OF STRATEGIES
Every person is an individual, with individual strengths and weaknesses. What is attempted here is to give some strategies that work with children and then allow individuals to personalize them so they become part of everyday practices.