1-3. Principles To Live, And Die For
Before we look at some of the strategies that may be useful, we need to look at the guiding principles behind any respect policy. Teachers stand a better chance of success if they are able to find the reasons behind a disrespectful behavior. Once the behavior is understood, strategies can be utilized to help stop the disrespectful behavior.
- Know thyself. Strengths, weaknesses, etc.
- Know the specific student. Baggage, attitudes, etc. and what was ffective/ineffective in the past.
- People are emotional beings. When the emotional envelope is large, analytical analysis doesn't work.
- We must act in a respectful manner at all times.
- Changing negative behavior requires long-term effort.
- Teachers must model what they expect students to do.
- If a strategy doesn't work, first find the reasons why, then either modify, or stop the action, based on what was found.
- Being respectful to everyone will require treating people as individuals. This may require different treatments for the same observable behavior.
- People have different value systems and assumptions. Are the values and assumptions I use appropriate?
- There needs to be a "spiritual" component to our lives that is observed in the way we interact with people.
- We need to see the good in humanity and focus on it.
- Revisit all interactions, at the end of the day, to see what was effective and what wasn't. These "movies of the mind" are critical if we want to be successful as possible with students.
- Every student we work with must know we care for them as individuals.
- It is disrespectful to allow a student to be disrespectful.
- See also the section "As An Educator ...I Believe"